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  1. Dear Gurudev, how do I find peace for the misery I have caused. My husband passed away in April 2015. He lived alone for 15 months and made his last telephone call to me and I screamed at him. I did not listen to what he had to say. He was having affairs throughout our marriage and I caught him 15 months ago. I could not forgive him. Today, I am sorry.

    That’s okay. You should move on. Life is like a river. Sometimes muddy water fills the river, sometimes clear water fills it; sometimes all the leaves of the fall float in the river and sometimes logs float, but the river never stops ...
  2. Dear Gurudev, how do I help my mother stop talking ill of her sister? My mother is 76 years old and her sister is 74.

    Don’t try to do that. Let her talk and empty it all out. If you want to play some games, write a nice card and say, "Your sister has sent you this!" Anyway, they both may not be able to read it properly so you say, "I will read it f ...
  3. How to come out of suicidal thoughts? I am being made the culprit for so much negativity, which I can't bear.

    Time and again, what happens is a cloud of negativity comes and bombards your head, isn't it? From college kids to retired people, this is a problem. In fact, it's not even a problem, it's a challenge. Suddenly negative clouds appear and eve ...
  4. Gurudev, it is said that whatever we are is what we attract. I keep attracting dishonest, restless and non-peaceful people, while I myself am an honest and peaceful person. Why is this so?

    If you see that they are like that, then you should just be centered, that’s it. Do not get swayed in the same direction of their negativity.It is quite natural, but all these are occasions for you to reflect and look at your own strength to ...
  5. Gurudev, if we get negative thoughts by seeing or thinking about someone, then what should we do? Our ancestors have said that it is a sin to even think negative thoughts. Is this correct or wrong?

    See, it is alright. Thoughts simply come to you. They do not take your permission to appear, it just comes. So how can you hold yourself responsible for your thoughts? Just do not encourage negative thoughts. When you do not encourage or engage with neg ...
  6. Dear Gurudev, how can I have a more positive mind?

    Just know that the tendency of the mind is to hold on to something negative. If ten compliments and one insult are given, the mind holds on to the negative – that one insult. So when we know this, we are already one step out of it. Time and again, ...
  7. Gurudev, what do I do when I have too many negative thoughts?

    There are several reasons to it.When your bowel movements are not good, if you are constipated, there you get too many negative thoughts. So purification of the body is a must.When your digestion is good, then mind is clear too.
  8. The media always latches on to the negative stories. How can we make a good story sensational?

    This is one thing you should not do; generalize. You should not eternalize and generalize everything. You should not say that the media always, or every media does that. It is not the case.Here is one example. Annika Dopping from Sweden has made ...
  9. (Tanika Gray: News Editor at CNN) Q: With the media reporting crime and negativity around the world, what do you think is their responsibility towards this violence that is happening? What do you think we should be doing differently?

    I think the media has two important roles to play. One is to place the facts in front of the people as they are. At the same time create hope in people for the future.You know, the present scenario can be very depressing. The media has to take re ...
  10. Gurudev, I wonder why fearful and bad thoughts come even in the most positive of places, and sometimes even while praying. Please help.

    Never mind. Thoughts are thoughts. As long as you are aware that these thoughts are coming, you are very safe, because these thoughts come and go. Negative thoughts come due to several reasons: 1. Lack of good circulation in the body, and imprope ...