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  1. Children don’t care about their parents when they grow up. Where do we fail as parents and what is your advice to parents so that this situation could be controlled?

    That is why I say that it is important to instill the three types of trust in your children – trust in oneself, trust in the goodness of others, and trust in the Divine. A little bit of moral and spiritual values, and the way you treat your parent ...
  2. How do I know if my child is into drugs or just moody? 

    That’s why it is important for you to know them and their friend circle. You will get to know what they do, where they go and keep a tab on them, especially when they are in their teenage. Teenage is a very difficult time. Teenagers are undergoing so ...
  3. Please give guidance on parenting special children.  

    You simply serve them. Don’t pity them. You know, people with special needs, their soul is in a different state. They are not in a sorry state. They have come to this planet just to take service. With this attitude, you do service. Never have symp ...
  4. Sometimes dealing with kids gets so tricky that I tend to lose my patience. Every day I decide to be calm, but when the situation arises I am not able to control myself. What should I do?

    You can’t do anything about it now, you have to live life spontaneously. It is okay to sometimes lose your temper, never mind. You should leave a little room for imperfection in life, and start accepting. Some kids are there to teach you a ...
  5. How do I deal with the rebelliousness of my kids?

    Negative suggestions call for rebelliousness in the mind. If you say, “Don't do it”, then the mind says, “Why? Let me do it!” The mind calls for rebelliousness. But if you say, “You can do it, only you won't get the results ...
  6. How to cope with children’s expectations when they compare themselves with others and demand the things that others have?

    You have to tell children that you can only give them this much and they shouldn’t compare themselves with others.It is important that you don’t give them any false hope. At the same time, we can give them a dream. If you ...
  7. How to deal with my child asking too many questions?

    Children ask questions and often they are not looking for an answer, they move on whether you answer or not. Children are not stuck in questions like adults. Adults get stuck in questions, and ask the same questions ten times; children don't care. The s ...
  8. Gurudev, how do I make my parents understand that my Guru, knowledge and my yearning for the truth is of utmost importance to me? They just don’t seem to want to understand this.

    Why do you want them to understand? Keep your secret in your heart and serve them and make them happy. You don’t need to convince everyone about what you believe and what you think is right. If they don’t understand, it is their choice and t ...
  9. Gurudev, I’m a little puzzled as to what style of parenting I should adopt. Sometimes I feel like I’m too strict, and at other times I joke so much with my 12 year old that he calls me a joker. I’m a little bewildered. Please help me.

    Good, good! Good to be a joker, than to be too serious. Have fun in the world. The short time we’ll be on this planet we should make ourselves happy and others happy. What is there to brood over? And if you feel things are insufficient - < ...
  10. Our parents are very possessive about us and they call us 8-10 times in a day. How long do we tolerate this?

    If you see the environment of today’s society, it is natural for parents to worry more for their children. They love you so much which is why they call and check on you more often. Why do you see it as a burden? When you think it is a painful burd ...