13 March 2015 - QA 3

Gurudev, you said not to hurt the ego of a man. But is that valid even when he hurts the feelings of his wife? How do I change his egoistic nature?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar:

Why do you want to change their nature? You change. When you change they may also change, or they may not change! We need to learn to see life from a broader perspective. Then things make much more sense to us.
Why do we try to change people? It is because they are hurting us. And the more we want to change someone because they are hurting us, they are not going to change, I tell you.

If you really want them to change, you have to wish for their welfare, because what they are doing is not good for them. And if that is your intention, with that wish they will change. I tell you they will change.
Your every prayer will make them see things differently and behave differently. So that’s the power of your intention.