Q: How do you know if an answer is coming from within or from the rational mind?
Sri Sri: There is no criteria. The calmer and serene the mind is, the right answer will come to you.
Q: How to control desire?
Sri Sri: Be in the now. Desire is wanting to be happy tomorrow. Be happy and joyful now. Like children, if you ask them what they want, they will say nothing. Because they are happy with 'now'.
Q: How does one get over past childhood problems?
Sri Sri: It’s already gone. If you think it is still in the mind, then rub it off. De-link the pain from the memory. But if you put effort in trying to do that, you bring the memory back. However, in meditation you feel the pain as a sensation and not as connected to an event. In the Art of Silence Course, during the Hollow and Empty Meditation, you observe pain as a sensation. The very first experience of life was pain, coming out of our mother’s womb through such a small passage. Before that you were in bliss. You didn’t even need to eat. Then suddenly the water got drained and you came out crying. Have you noticed the expression on a newborn’s face? It is as though they came out from ten hours of hard work! The first experience is that of pain. Then the child looks into the mother’s eyes, and then the mother experiences the love.
Don’t see pain as an event.
Q: What happens to a relationship when someone passes away? Does it end or does it continue into the next lifetime?
Sri Sri: Both are possible. Some end and some continue to the next lifetime.
Q: Is it our responsibility to give birth to a child? Or can we leave this in God’s hand?
Sri Sri: If you feel you want a child, go for it. Simple. Even this thought of wanting a child may be from the universal thought.
Q: How can one always remain committed?
Sri Sri: Do you want an answer? You are committed to getting an answer? Let me see how long you can hold on to that commitment. You know, there is nothing like one commitment. It does not work like that. From time to time you have to take on commitments in life. That is part of your nature. If you are weak, you will drop your commitment everyday. If you are strong, you will stick to it. How does one become strong? Pranayama and meditation.
Q: How does one deal with separation anxiety?
Sri Sri: Ujjayi breath. You are in the ocean of breath.
Q: Why do we cry in front of God and how can we bring ourselves closer to God?
Sri Sri: It makes you feel better when you release the tears. The impressions go themselves. You don’t need any effort to make yourself close to God. God is the closest thing to you. There is no escape from God! However you are, good or bad, God is all around you. Like there is air all around you. Whether you are awake or asleep, air is all around. When you feel hot, you stand in front of the fan. The fan is just blowing the air ,which is already there. Satsang is like a fan. The Master is like a fan. Only then do you feel the blow of the air.
Q: When we meditate you say don’t put any effort, but a part of you wants to put effort because there is a feeling that there is nothing to do. What to do with that?
Sri Sri: Do bhastrika, asanas. Put effort in that. When you sit for meditation you don’t need to put any effort. See for catching a train you need to make an effort, but once you are inside the train with your baggage you needn’t keep running inside. That would not get you to your destination any faster. Once you have boarded you can simply relax. Just as on a flight, all seats will reach at the same time to the same place.
Q: How to get rid of fatigue and headache?
Sri Sri: Yoga and pranayama.