Q: What happens to a relationship when someone passes away? Does it end or does it continue into the next lifetime?
Sri Sri: Both are possible. Some end and some continue to the next lifetime.
Q: Please speak about forgiveness toward ourselves and others.
Sri Sri: Don’t do it, if it is hard. Go the easy way. If it is hard to forgive, never ever forgive. If it is easy to hold a grudge against somebody, keep it with you all your life. In that case you should be happy with it. Can you be happy with a grudge against somebody? If somebody made a mistake, it is their problem and not yours. You just go the easy way.
The struggle is that we want to forgive but we can’t. We should look at every culprit as a victim. If the person was unjust to you, clearly he was not happy. Otherwise, he would not have done it. He was not as refined and cultured as you. Whose mistake is that? If that person was enlightened, or had knowledge he would not have done it. So be compassionate.
Q: Why do we cry in front of God and how can we bring ourselves closer to God?
Sri Sri: It makes you feel better when you release the tears. The impressions go themselves. You don’t need any effort to make yourself close to God. God is the closest thing to you. There is no escape from God! However you are, good or bad, God is all around you. Like there is air all around you. Whether you are awake or asleep, air is all around. When you feel hot, you stand in front of the fan. The fan is just blowing the air ,which is already there. Satsang is like a fan. The Master is like a fan. Only then do you feel the blow of the air.
Q: How does one get over past childhood problems?
Sri Sri: It’s already gone. If you think it is still in the mind, then rub it off. De-link the pain from the memory. But if you put effort in trying to do that, you bring the memory back. However, in meditation you feel the pain as a sensation and not as connected to an event. In the Art of Silence Course, during the Hollow and Empty Meditation, you observe pain as a sensation. The very first experience of life was pain, coming out of our mother’s womb through such a small passage. Before that you were in bliss. You didn’t even need to eat. Then suddenly the water got drained and you came out crying. Have you noticed the expression on a newborn’s face? It is as though they came out from ten hours of hard work! The first experience is that of pain. Then the child looks into the mother’s eyes, and then the mother experiences the love.
Don’t see pain as an event.
Q: Why do people meditate? Is it alright to sleep during meditation?
Sri Sri: It’s fine unless you are snoring and troubling others! (laughter) Meditation is deep rest. What is samadhi? It is equivalent to a million years of rest. If you meditate even for a second and sleep before and after, never mind. Even if it is sound sleep. So what?
Q: What is your advice for people on planet Earth? How can we live such that after 50-100 years we would still have fresh air to breathe?
Sri Sri: Care for nature, like native communities worship nature. Honor the environment. In a place in India if you cut one tree, you have to promise you will plant five of the same kind within the next forty days. There is a whole ritual in which one who is cutting the tree speaks to it, telling it that after cutting it will be useful to us. We must care for nature, not exploit it.
Q: Is it our responsibility to give birth to a child? Or can we leave this in God’s hand?
Sri Sri: If you feel you want a child, go for it. Simple. Even this thought of wanting a child may be from the universal thought.
Q: How can we come out of yes and no in the mind?
Sri Sri: Just smile through. Take things as they come.
Q: How does one deal with separation anxiety?
Sri Sri: Ujjayi breath. You are in the ocean of breath.
Q: Please explain the meaning of Sat Chitananda.
Sri Sri: Sat is “that exists.” Chit is “that knows.” Ananda is “bliss.”