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  1. How do I know if I really love someone or is it merely attraction?

    Time will tell you. Ask them to behave tough towards you and then you will know. When someone puts too many demands on you, then you will be able to know how much you really honor them. ...
  2. I am an elderly person, and I feel like dying because I am so dependent.

    Life is such; you should not feel that I am dependent, and I want to be independent. See, no baby has been independent. As a baby, parents took care of you, and in your old age, your children or someone else will take care of you. So, life in the beginn ...
  3. How can the true nature of a person be known?

    Why do you want to know the true nature of another person? Know your own nature, that is good enough. Don’t sit and judge others, you never know! If your time is good your enemies become friends, and if your time is bad then your closest friends w ...
  4. Gurudev, why doesn’t God give us some kind of visible indication of a suitable life partner, like smoke coming out from that person, etc.? Why do we have to invest our time and emotions in a person to find out?

    Well, I think the smoke comes afterwards! (Laughter) So first there is fire, and then the smoke comes later on. Someone who wants to be your partner may also want the same thing. So they too maybe are looking for a similar indication from your si ...
  5. Gurudev, what should I do so that everyone likes me?

    See, first just drop this want to be liked by everyone. As long as you are the favourite and beloved of the Divine, that is good enough. That’s it! How long can you go on pleasing everyone? Just have a deep sense of contentment from within; from y ...
  6. How do I manage the expectations of people around me, and how to be happy without expecting much from my loved ones?

    See, you do your 100% and then that’s it! If they expect more from you, say, "I am so sorry, I can’t do this".If you are not a doctor and somebody expects you to treat them, what would you do? Will you give them an injection ...
  7. I have failed in two love relations. What do I do? How many times will my heart break? I am shattered. Why is the one whom I love married to someone else?

    Do not worry. There were only 2 failed relationships. Even to pass the IAS (Indian Administrative Services) exam you get 3 chances. Never mind. You are getting experience from this - to love and let go. ...
  8. Dear Gurudev, how to manage my life when one of my most beloved is totally against the very foundation of my life, or my source of happiness?

    Consider it as your tapasya (penance). Use all your skills. Tough situations bring out the skills from within you. If things are smooth, there is no use of your skill. You won’t even know whether you have skills or not. The tougher the situ ...
  9. Sometimes I feel very lonely. I really don’t know what to do to get rid of this. I need someone to support me and someone on whom I can rely on. But no one is ready for 100% commitment. What to do?

    Any companionship when it goes from a place of wanting or lack, to contributing, it is long lasting. You came into this world all alone. Even if you are born twins, you are alone. When you go from here, you are going to go alone. Do not try to run away ...
  10. Gurudev, how do you deal with a family member who is stiff and bitter?

    Deal with them with patience and compassion. They are going through some rough patches. Do not pay much attention to what they say, and do not say too much to them. Take anything they say with a smile. Give them some space to calm down and get rid of wh ...