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  1. My partner cheated on me. When I confronted him, he says, ‘You do not possess me'. What to do in such a situation?

    It is a very tough situation. I have no experience, how can I give you any ideas or suggestions? But I understand your predicament. You know why they cheat on you? It is because they value your love and are afraid of losing your love. Whenever so ...
  2. How to know that the girl I like is the one I am looking for, and if I am the right person for her?

    This you have to ask her! If you feel you are not up to the mark, you can straight away start being up to the mark. Improve your qualities, otherwise she will anyways teach you! A spouse can bring the best out of you or the worst out of you
  3. Gurudev, there are many divorces happening in India nowadays. Please give some tips to men and women to stop this.

    To the men I would say, do not attack the emotions of women. Women are emotionally inclined, respect their emotions. Don’t sit like in olden times and dictate or lord over them; respect women. To the women I would say, don’t attack a ...
  4. Gurudev, how do we handle people who emotionally abuse you?

    If it is physical abuse, then you should just stay away from them. But if it is emotional abuse that you are going through, then it is totally your responsibility. No one can emotionally manipulate you if you do not let them manipulate you ...
  5. (A member of the audience asked a question which was inaudible)

    You give comfort to people, don’t question them and don’t expect comfort from them. We should not expect people at home to give us pep talks all the time. Life is like that, sometimes you get angry, sometimes you’re happy, you laugh, you cry, you smile. ...
  6. Gurudev, how does one get over attachment?

    Why do you want to get over attachment? It is because it gives you pain. If it did not bring you pain, you would never think of getting rid of attachment. Attachment gives pain because there is ignorance attached to it. Do not try to get out of attachme ...
  7. Gurudev, are you in favor of divorce?

    No, not at all. But if your relationship comes to such a stage that it becomes difficult for both partners to continue ahead, if your lives become a living hell because of it, and if no amount of attempts can save your relationship, then I would ask bot ...
  8. Gurudev, I feel that people around me deceive me very quickly and easily. What pleasure do they get in doing such things?

    Whether they deceive you sooner or later, how does it matter? I tell you, it is better they deceive and cheat you sooner than later. Being cheated later will bring more difficulties for you. Listen, know that you are wise. Cheating someone is a t ...
  9. What should I do if people see my patience, compassion, kshama (forgiveness) and endurance as a weakness?

    Well, you cannot make someone else think differently, or change their perception. If they think that way, it is up to them. As far as you are centered and strong, you are fine. You go on. ...
  10. Initially I always see the best in people but as time passes, I begin to see the worst of them when I get to know them closely. My feelings about them change. Why does this happen and how do I handle this situation?

    You know, the opposite of this fact is also true. Many times you do not get off to a good start with someone else, but as time passes and you keep your patience, you start liking them. So both things are true.This kind of cycle comes in everyone’s l ...