20 April 2015 - QA 3

Lately, I feel a lot of distance towards my family and my friends. Is it the right thing to contact them directly again and speak to them?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar:

Just be spontaneous. Don`t put a concept in your mind saying 'I need to be this way or that way.' Just be spontaneous. You can`t force yourself to love someone, nor can you force yourself to stop loving someone. Just be natural. When you grow up, you find all those conversations appear to be meaningless because your consciousness is expanding and you are able to see a bigger dimension.
This doesn`t mean that you have stopped having fun. Sometimes you want to have fun, go ahead, have fun. You don`t have to be serious. And if you feel that you’re losing the connection, don’t worry, underneath there is connectivity. Before you were living only with your emotions, but now you are living with your being,which is much bigger, and much more powerful than your emotions. Before you used to get upset quickly, or get emotionally entangled, now you find yourself on a more stable and equanimous state of mind. Before people kept pushing your buttons, now you feel it doesn`t matter, and that`s a very good sign of growth.