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  1. Gurudev, how do I find a life partner? I feel I’ve tried everything with no luck. What do I do differently?

    Well, I’m not an expert in this. You have to ask this question to somebody who has been in many relationships and finally got someone who they are happy with. They will give you their expert advice.
    One thing I would say is, if you’re looking for a p ...

  2. Dear Gurudev, please say something about in-laws. Nowadays, people hate their in-laws.

    Yes, this is a very common thing. In India, we had a program with about 20,000-25,000 people. I usually say that anyone who comes to the ashram should leave their worries and problems here, and go back home with a smile.
    One lady said, ‘My prob ...

  3. Dearest Gurudev, it is possible to restore trust in a relationship after a partner cheats? How to get past a cheating partner?

    I can tell you one thing, suppose you were in your partner’s place and you made a mistake; not willingly but unknowingly, or due to some compulsion. If your partner does not forgive you and holds it against you, how would you feel?
    Get into you ...

  4. Dear Gurudev, I have a very nice person as my partner. I feel that I am not good enough for my partner and I am not fulfilling the expectations kept from me. Is marriage really made in heaven? Am I being cursed with love?

    You are wondering why you got married! It’s a little too late for that! It is better not to spend time regretting.
    Marriage is a compromise and you have to compromise. You know you have a very nice person as a partner. Just imagine what you wou ...

  5. How do I live with a husband who is a mama’s boy? How and when does a man switch from being a devoted son to also being a husband and a father?

    See this from a long term perspective. What would you like your son to be?Do you want your son, as soon as he gets married, to be only a good husband and good father and stop being a good son? This is a question in front of you. If you answer this qu ...

  6. Please talk on the subject of divorce. When is it a good thing? Or is it always to be avoided?

    Now, I have no experience on this.
    You should ask yourself, have you put your 100% to make the marriage work? Have you done all that you could to please your spouse and make them happy, and still it has not worked?

    Marriage means ...

  7. Gurudev, please guide on how to bring spouses who oppose the path onto the path.

    That is a big test.
    Do you know why your spouse opposes your path? Let us analyze this! Let's think about this.
    1. Maybe your spouse is very attached to you and wants all your attention, and when your attention is elsewhere, they don’t l ...

  8. Gurudev, you said that love cannot be limited. Is marriage the end of love?

    (Laughter) Well, I don’t know that. I have never been married. If you are asking in the sense that marriage is the end of love, then that is not how it should be. But if marriage begins with love for each other, it is okay. Even if it blossoms duri ...
  9. Gurudev, After a couple of failed relationships, how do I overcome the desire to be in another relationship. I feel guilty when I wish I had a partner, because in the past I have failed.

    Okay, there are two things that you can do.
    1. If you feel that it (relationship) is not for you then move on, move alone like a lion.
    2. If you feel that you really need it, then try again till you succeed. Keep trying all your life, till you go ...
  10. Gurudev, I want to be honest with my parents about my sexuality. Yet my fear of losing their love and support has been stopping me from being honest with them. Do I need to be compassionate and not burden my parents? Please guide me to a solution.

    You don’t have to label yourself as gay or a lesbian. You don’t need to put on a label. These are tendencies which come and go.
    You should label yourself as Divine light. This label is much better than putting a label about your sexuality becaus ...
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