Self-reliance needs enormous courage.
Surrender needs less courage.
A person who cannot surrender cannot be self-reliant either.
If you don't have enough courage to surrender, then it is impossible for you to be self-reliant. You simply fool yourself. People who are afraid to surrender fool themselves. Because even a little fear is detrimental to self-reliance.
If you don't have a hundred dollars, you cannot have a thousand dollars.
Self-reliance contains surrender. Fifty dollars contains ten dollars.
Question: Why does self-reliance need so much courage?
When you want to depend on yourself for everything, there is nobody else, then it needs a lot of courage.
Often people think that surrender is a way to escape from responsibility and they end up blaming the Divine for all their problems. In fact, the true surrender is taking total responsibility for everything.
Susannah: How can we do that?
You take responsibility and you pray for help.
Surrender eventually leads you to self-reliance. Because there is nothing other than the Big Self.