"Being compassionate is important." This line might have crossed your mind a thousand times, but might have left you with these question in mind: "How can I be compassionate?" and "What does it take to be compassionate?" Well, let's discover the whys and hows of being compassionate.
Compassion towards oneself
Think it over…
How often do you say to yourself, "I love the way I am"?
How often do you forgive yourself for your mistakes and don't feel guilty?
How often do you love being in your own company and not search for company outside?
How often do you console yourself for your failures?
Think about it, would you like to spend time with a person who grumbles a lot about you? Obviously not! But still, most of us have been doing that for a long time now. Haven't we? Don't we sometimes criticize ourselves for our failures? For making mistakes?! For not being perfect?!
But how does that make us feel? Low and unworthy?!
In an attempt to make everything right, we strive to be perfect and invite more stress.We know improvement is a gradual process and yet we want everything to happen in one go. Don't we?
That's where the need to be more compassionate and not be so hard on oneself arises. Self-compassion means totally accepting ourselves the way we are and then working to improve ourselves constantly. But the ability to do all this comes when our mind is calm and at rest. And the mind calms down and feels restful through meditation.
Meditation brings us back in that space of unconditional love. Meditating regularly helps us get rid of unnatural qualities such as stress, anxiety, and depression. We start loving ourselves the way we are, without any judgements.
Tips to be compassionate towards oneself
#1 If you have made some mistake, forgive yourself, learn from it, and move on. Remember not to be too hard on yourself.
#2 If you do not like something about yourself and you feel you need to change it, do that without hating yourself. Give yourself some time to improve.
#3 If someone criticizes you, take it in your stride. If that criticism has substance, use it. Else, forget what they said; it is no good holding on to such things.
Compassion towards others
Think it over…
Have you forgiven somebody for their mistake without making it obvious?
Have you helped somebody without selfish motives?
Have you constructively criticized someone without blaming them?
Compassion is another way of saying "I care for you unconditionally". Unconditional caring is not demanding; it focuses more on giving without any expectation of getting something in return.
Let us take the case of your manager at work. Say she tells you on a day when you are a little under the weather, "Don't exhaust yourself by working late into the night; you'll spoil your health", will this make you feel cared for? If we appreciate such care from others, shouldn't we make efforts to make others feel good too?
How can we develop that compassion for others? Can we force ourselves to be compassionate? Compassion is the quality of a peaceful and calm mind, which can be further nurtured by spending a few minutes in meditation every day. A few minutes of deep rest happens through meditation, and that can keep us going for the whole day. So don't miss out on your daily dose of meditation and compassion! Why not take the first session of meditation now and experience it for yourself!?
Tips to be compassionate towards others
When you do something for others, you might feel a wave of positive energy in your heart.
Remember, it does not take anything big to show compassion to others; sometimes, just a few small deeds can bring a smile to someone's face. Would you like to do something today?
#1 Why not help an underprivileged childwith anything he needs – it could be teaching him for an hour over the weekend or simply gifting him something.
#2 It's nice sometimes to forgive people for their mistakes. It's important however to make them aware of their mistakes.
#3 Sometimes just passing a nice genuine smile to the ones around you can also make them feel loved.
Are you longing to discover that subtle space of sharing love and being loved? Join a Sahaj Samadhi Meditation Course near your place and feel compassion for oneself and others.