Question & Answers with Sri Sri Ravi Shankar
Q: Can you please tell how does one get rid of doubt?
Sri Sri: You know, doubt is always about something positive. You always doubt the honesty of a person and never the dishonesty. When someone tells you, "I love you", you ask, “really?” When someone tells you, “I hate you”, you never doubt that. Isn’t it? You are not sure about your happiness. When someone asks about our happiness, we say, "Well, I am not sure." But we are so sure of our depression. We never doubt our weakness, we always doubt our capabilities. If you observe, all good things like love, happiness, honesty, sincerity and virtues are being doubted. So, any doubt must be good.
Q: Between karma and good luck, which is more important? Does our karma play any role in deciding one’s luck?
Sri Sri: When you are in front of the television, do you listen to the voice first or watch the screen? They happen simultaneously, isn’t it? In the same way, both karma and luck are important. When we perform appropriate actions, then we become fortunate. When we have good fortune, then our actions are fruitful.
Q: I have fallen because of such a big ego. What can I do?
Sri Sri: Never mind! If you have recognized that you have fallen, you will rise higher. That is good enough. You have recognized that your ego has been the hindrance. But now don’t fight your ego. Just keep it in your pocket. Let it be there. Don’t try to do anything with it. Say, “I like it” and let it be there. If you don’t like it, give it to me, but then, I would like you to keep it with you. You know our effort in trying to erase our ego becomes another big problem. You have enough other problems to solve anyway.
Q: I have lost my trust, how can I regain it?
Sri Sri: Don’t make an effort to regain it. Listen to your heart. Trust can never be lost. Doubt as much as possible, but truth always stands up to the doubt. Truth is so strong that doubt cannot destroy it. So, it is good to doubt. And the trust which moves through the doubt and stands, that is true trust.
Q: How can I free myself from fears that seem to have settled into me years ago? I know they are irrational and just in my head. Yet they come up over and over again. They are distracting and feel binding to me!
Sri Sri: Meditate! Sit quietly and meditate, or listen to some chanting music. All this will help. Meditation, some pranayama, kriya, some excercises, ujjayi breath are very good for fears. Don’t think that fear is somewhere deep inside you. It is an erroneous notion of Psychology that fear and guilt are deep down. I tell you, deep down there is only a lot of joy; a lot of bliss. And in that centre – no fear, no guilt, no anger, no lust can touch you. Deep down you are wonderful. So, never think you have all these anxieties. Those who say that there is something wrong deep down are blind. It is all there just on the surface. If they call that deep, then I will suggest going deeper. In the centre of your being, you are a fountain of joy.
Q: Sometimes I feel tired of doing service. I feel like stopping then. I also feel frustrated then. Guruji, Why does this happen, and what should I do when I face this?
Sri Sri: When your body and mind are tired, you should relax then. Don’t get stuck with the thoughts of doing service at that time. Relax and meditate.
Q: Can you say something about how to make a relationship last?
Sri Sri: There are various ways but the best is intuitive, your intuition. If in the relationship, both come from the point of giving then there will be no problem. But if both want to take, there will be fights for sure. ‘I am here to contribute, what I can do for you?’ - With this attitude, your relationship will last longer.
Q: Is money a prior requirement in order to feel happy?
Sri Sri: There is no doubt that you need some money for your day to day survival. But, money cannot buy you happiness. It’s knowledge or wisdom that brings you happiness.
Q: Please speak about what will happen in the year 2012. Is the world going to end?
Sri Sri: The year 2012 is a fascination. It has become such a sensation. No news is good news till it has become a sensation. We will have more work to do. People will become more spiritual. It will become a necessity and not merely a fashion. The Golden Age is already here.
Sri Sri: Do you need an answer? If you need an answer that means you need someone who have to give you the answer, and that anyone who gives you the answer automatically becomes a Guru. Guru means the one who gives the answer. The English word guide comes from the original sanskrit word guru. You need a guide for everything, for learning guitar, music, or any field you take. Similarly, Guru is the one who can guide you into meditation, wisdom, and knowledge.