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  1. Gurudev, how is it possible to forgive and forget, sometimes it becomes impossible for me. Help me do the impossible possible. It’s a request.

    Know that you have the power to do it and just do it. Open your mind to the vastness of this universe. Wake up and see that seven billion people are on this planet, everyday many are being burnt, everyday many are dying. Whatever big thing you are hangi ...
  2. Dear Gurudev, I say that I have forgiven, but when I am meditating, the past comes back and I feel that I am losing out on my experience. Forgiving is easier said than done. Please help me to forgive and be free because I am still hurting.

    Forgiving is not only difficult, it is almost impossible as long as you think that someone is a culprit. But if you see that person, whomsoever you want to forgive, not as a culprit but as a victim of situations, a victim of ignorance, or just a postman ...
  3. Dear Gurudev, how do I help my adult children to forget about our past and be loving again?

    As I said, don’t ask for explanations of the past. Don’t say, "Let us sit and talk it out". Don’t do this. I am not for this at all. When people have misunderstandings, they say, "Let us talk it out". This & ...
  4. Gurudev, what is the best way to forgive somebody?

    When you want to forgive them, then you have already forgiven them. There is no other way then. It is already done.When can you really forgive someone? You can forgive someone when you see them as a victim. Every culprit is also a victim ...
  5. Dear Gurudev, how do I learn forgiveness?

    Why do you want to learn? Why do you want to take all the trouble? Hold on to your grudge, and when you cannot then you have already forgiven (the person).It’s not easy to hold on to a grudge against somebody. If you are wise you’d ...
  6. I was abused as a child. What is the best way to forgive that person?

    You know, people who abuse, either they have been victims or they are ignorant. If they are ignorant, it is not their fault. They have never been educated. You have to have pity for them, compassion for them. And if they are victims themselves, then they i ...
  7. How do you forgive someone that you have a close relationship with, who has betrayed you and let you down continuously?

    Well, what option do you have? If there is any other good option, tell me, I will go along with you. Let us say, we do not forgive, what is the other option? Hold it against them. Does it benefit you in any way? It does not benefit you! You get even more ...
  8. Gurudev, why do we cry when we have to forgive someone or ask for forgiveness from someone?

    See, you become so peaceful when you forgive someone, or when you ask for forgiveness yourself. No matter which way you choose, just be at peace and be happy. When we forgive someone, we feel happy, and when we ask forgiveness from someone, we instantly f ...
  9. Gurudev, is there any limit to forgiving or asking for forgiveness? Is there any governing principle for this?

    Forgiving someone shows one’s compassion. Asking for forgiveness shows that you recognize your mistakes, and that you resolve not to repeat them in the future. Now to say, 'Only if he/she asks me for forgiveness will I forgive them', this is of a lower fo ...
  10. Gurudev, Kshama (mercy or forgiveness) has also been called as Daan (charity). Why is this so? It is called as Kshama-Daan (meaning to see forgiveness as an act of charity or altruism).

    Do not get entangled in this web of words. It is just a play of words. Different people use different words or different languages to convey the same thing. Forgiveness is simply forgiveness, that’s it. ...