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  1. Gurudev, how to take complete responsibility yet not feel a sense of doership and feel pressured for results?

    Look, forget about doer ship, just do what you have to do. Be a doer and do it, never mind. Don’t keep any split in the mind, just do good work. Even if you say, "I have done this", it’s okay, but first do. The rest we will see lat ...
  2. Dear Gurudev, what if a child fails to fulfil the parent's dream? What should the teenager do if he faces failure in his career and professional life at such a time?

    No, don't worry, teenagers can never fail their parents because there is a lot of time to fail them! If after the age of 40 or 50, you feel you have failed, then it is fine. Actually, you can still do something at that time also. Never get disappointed ...
  3. Dear Gurudev, is my enlightenment my responsibility or your responsibility?

    If you give it to me, it is my responsibility. If you take it, it is your responsibility. ...
  4. Gurudev, in surrender, it seems that there is a lack of responsibility. Is that true?

    No! Both should go together. You should surrender and take responsibility, or after taking responsibility, you should surrender. How? Like when you watch television, you watch and listen simultaneously. Having surrendered, take full responsibili ...
  5. Who am I? Why do I need to care for my husband, my children and my family? What if my children do not take care of me when I grow old?

    Listen, if your own parents though this way about you, can you imagine where you would have been today?See, it is good that you ask this question, “Who am I?” You should keep this question with yourself. This question helps you move ah ...
  6. Dear Gurudev, as a working mother, I cannot spend quality time with my child. In this modern age what is your advice to working mothers?

    Where there is a will there is a way. Children are not the problem. Here is Elonka, she has three little kids and with three little kids she would conduct courses. She would feed the baby then give it to someone to take care and then she would conduct the ...
  7. Gurudev, why do I have to take on so many responsibilities. I have the responsibility of my happiness, my husband’s happiness, family’s happiness, etc. Why all this when ultimately I have to die?

    Well, that is because you are born! When you are born you have to take care of all this.There are two ways of looking at life:1. Either you take it as a burden and a drag and make your whole life a long drawn misery, or 2. You take it with e ...
  8. Gurudev, even after wearing the sacred thread (yagnopaveetham), people don’t bear the responsibilities properly. Do you really think that wearing this sacred thread reminds us of our responsibilities?

    It is just a symbol. It is not that just because you have worn a badge of Vande Matram, you become totally patriotic. Similarly you may wear a thread and you may still not be responsible. It doesn’t make any sense. Many people wear sacred thread ...
  9. Gurudev, if the heart wants something but my responsibilities prevent me from striving to get that, then what should I do?

    You should fulfil the responsibilities in life first. You can always listen to the heart a little later and act on it. If you only listen to what your heart says, and do just that, then you will get into trouble. ...
  10. Gurudev, there is a constant struggle between responsibilities and my personal desires. How do I create a balance?

    Well, when you say that is a constant struggle, then just let it be. When anything becomes constant, you get used to it. Then it is no longer a struggle. But anything is a struggle if you are not used to it. If you are used to something, then you cann ...