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  1. My partner cheated on me. When I confronted him, he says, ‘You do not possess me'. What to do in such a situation?

    It is a very tough situation. I have no experience, how can I give you any ideas or suggestions? But I understand your predicament. You know why they cheat on you? It is because they value your love and are afraid of losing your love. Whenever so ...
  2. Gurudev, there are many divorces happening in India nowadays. Please give some tips to men and women to stop this.

    To the men I would say, do not attack the emotions of women. Women are emotionally inclined, respect their emotions. Don’t sit like in olden times and dictate or lord over them; respect women. To the women I would say, don’t attack a ...
  3. After a couple of failed relationships, how do I overcome the desire to be in another relationship. I feel guilty when I wish I had a partner, because in the past I have failed.

    Okay, there are two things that you can do. 1. If you feel that it (relationship) is not for you then move on, move alone like a lion. 2. If you feel that you really need it, then try again till you succeed. Keep trying all your life, till you go ...
  4. Gurudev, I want to be honest with my parents about my sexuality. Yet my fear of losing their love and support has been stopping me from being honest with them. Do I need to be compassionate and not burden my parents? Please guide me to a solution.

    You don’t have to label yourself as gay or a lesbian. You don’t need to put on a label. These are tendencies which come and go. You should label yourself as Divine light. This label is much better than putting a label about your sexuality becaus ...
  5. Are all relationships based on previous karma?

    Yes. Do you know, sometimes a soul who wants to come into the world, it picks up one man and one woman and then creates such an attraction between them. So these two people come closer, and the moment they have the first child, suddenly all the love d ...
  6. What is the secret behind making a marriage work?

    I think you are asking the wrong person! There was a gentleman here from Germany and a lady from Italy. Both of them had married several times before. They came here and said, ‘Gurudev, we want your blessings. At least this marriage should work.’
  7. What do you think about dating websites? Is it a good way to find someone special?

    Well, you know, I only speak based on my experience. I don’t know about this. In this field, I am an alien! You ask someone around you. This is like going into a grocery shop and asking for gas. You go to a garment shop and ask for a suitcase, it ...
  8. How to cope with a troubled marriage, a marriage which has two kids? How to guide and give comfort to two young daughters who are caught in the middle of this marital issue?

    You know when marriages break down you have to deal with the children’s psychology with care. Often parents pour all their grievances onto those young minds. They say bad things about their spouse so that the children remain closer to them. Don’t do that. ...
  9. Gurudev, you have often spoken about the role of the husband and wife to have a successful married life. Today please tell us about the role of in-laws in having a happy married life.

    See, your mother and your father have scolded you so many times, isn’t it? When your mother scolds you, you easily accept it. But if the same thing is said by your mother-in-law, then it hurts and disturbs you, like as if something is stuck in your throat. ...