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  1. Dear Gurudev, how do I learn forgiveness?

    Why do you want to learn? Why do you want to take all the trouble? Hold on to your grudge, and when you cannot then you have already forgiven (the person).
    It’s not easy to hold on to a grudge against somebody. If you are wise you’d ...

  2. Gurudev, I was abused as a child. What is the best way to forgive that person?

    You know, people who abuse, either they have been victims or they are ignorant. If they are ignorant, it is not their fault. They have never been educated. You have to have pity for them, compassion for them. And if they are victims themselves, then they i ...
  3. Gurudev, How do you forgive someone that you have a close relationship with, who has betrayed you and let you down continuously?

    Well, what option do you have? If there is any other good option, tell me, I will go along with you. Let us say, we do not forgive, what is the other option? Hold it against them. Does it benefit you in any way? It does not benefit you! You get even more ...
  4. Gurudev, why do we cry when we have to forgive someone or ask for forgiveness from someone?

    See, you become so peaceful when you forgive someone, or when you ask for forgiveness yourself. No matter which way you choose, just be at peace and be happy. When we forgive someone, we feel happy, and when we ask forgiveness from someone, we instantly f ...
  5. Gurudev, is there any limit to forgiving or asking for forgiveness? Is there any governing principle for this?

    Forgiving someone shows one’s compassion. Asking for forgiveness shows that you recognize your mistakes, and that you resolve not to repeat them in the future. Now to say, 'Only if he/she asks me for forgiveness will I forgive them', this is of a lower fo ...
  6. Gurudev, Kshama (mercy or forgiveness) has also been called as Daan (charity). Why is this so? It is called as Kshama-Daan (meaning to see forgiveness as an act of charity or altruism).

    Do not get entangled in this web of words. It is just a play of words. Different people use different words or different languages to convey the same thing. Forgiveness is simply forgiveness, that’s it. ...
  7. Gurudev, someone I love has hurt me. I am finding it difficult to forgive them. What should I do?

    What are the options in front of you?
    One is, you don’t forgive them. If it is so difficult to forgive, then don’t forgive. My concern is, are you happy and peaceful? Can you be happy, content and peaceful without forgiving? No! Then just let go! ...
  8. Gurudev, please tell us about forgiveness. How do we forgive?

    Don’t forgive, hold on to it! Who is at a loss?
    An event that happened, it happened! Whether it was your mistake or somebody else’s mistake, it is over. However, if you are holding on to it, then you are suffering.

    Imagine you are in that position, ...

  9. Gurudev, I am in a situation in which I am neither able to forgive nor forget. Please guide me what to do.

    Then just think about your death, that you are going to die.
    Even if you hold on (to the situation), still you will be finished; you will go away from this world. Now, do you want to carry that impression? Come on, wake up!
    Life is so sho ...
  10. Gurudev, what is the difference between a sin and a mistake, and are they both forgivable?

    Absolutely, both can be forgiven.
    A sin can have some intention behind it, but a mistake happens without your awareness; when you are not aware.
    When doing a Sin, you knew it was not right, but still you did it.
    That could be the difference. ...
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