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  1. Gurudev, someone I love has hurt me. I am finding it difficult to forgive them. What should I do?

    What are the options in front of you? One is, you don’t forgive them. If it is so difficult to forgive, then don’t forgive. My concern is, are you happy and peaceful? Can you be happy, content and peaceful without forgiving? No! Then just let go! ...
  2. Gurudev, please tell us about forgiveness. How do we forgive?

    Don’t forgive, hold on to it! Who is at a loss?An event that happened, it happened! Whether it was your mistake or somebody else’s mistake, it is over. However, if you are holding on to it, then you are suffering. Imagine you are in that pos ...
  3. Gurudev, I am in a situation in which I am neither able to forgive nor forget. Please guide me what to do.

    Then just think about your death, that you are going to die. Even if you hold on (to the situation), still you will be finished; you will go away from this world. Now, do you want to carry that impression? Come on, wake up! Life is so sho ...
  4. Gurudev, what is the difference between a sin and a mistake, and are they both forgivable?

    Absolutely, both can be forgiven. A sin can have some intention behind it, but a mistake happens without your awareness; when you are not aware. When doing a Sin, you knew it was not right, but still you did it. That could be the difference. ...
  5. I have difficulty in forgiving people.

    Don’t forgive them, and then see if it is easier? If you don’t forgive somebody, you will keep thinking about them all the time. Is it really easy to hold on to anger towards somebody? My goodness, so much energy of ours gets wasted in it. Do you ...
  6. What exactly is meant by forgiveness? I am trying to forgive someone but I feel like I am not able to do it a 100%. I am wasting lots of time and energy on it, but I can't stop thinking about it. What should I do to truly forgive and move on?

    Just forget the whole business of forgiving. I think you have too much free time. Come to the kitchen and wash the dishes there. If that is too light a seva, go up and down the stairs about ten times. When you are physically exhausted, your mind will stop ...
  7. If love is our true nature then why does it feel so good to hurt someone when you have been hurt yourself? How do you stop yourself from retaliating against others?

    Again, you should read Intimate Note to the Sincere Seeker. I have spoken in so many words on these issues. Do you want the chain to contin ...