Guruji, I feel very unhappy when I see my girlfriend happier with someone else. I love her but this aspect of me is bringing distance between us. How to handle this?
Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: I think this is very common even after marriage.
See, when you love somebody you always take it for granted that anyways they are yours.
So when a new person comes you will engage yourself to welcome them and talk to them. Someone looking at you will think you look very happy.
Suppose you are doing the same thing, welcoming someone and talking to them happily and your girlfriend feels so jealous about it, how would you feel?
Put yourself in those shoes.
Many times it could be your own imagination, the way your own mind functions because of possessiveness. When you are possessive then the whole chain of negative thoughts will come.
See, when you love somebody you always take it for granted that anyways they are yours.
So when a new person comes you will engage yourself to welcome them and talk to them. Someone looking at you will think you look very happy.
Suppose you are doing the same thing, welcoming someone and talking to them happily and your girlfriend feels so jealous about it, how would you feel?
Put yourself in those shoes.
Many times it could be your own imagination, the way your own mind functions because of possessiveness. When you are possessive then the whole chain of negative thoughts will come.