06 June 2013 - QA 6

Gurudev, my parents have been married for 25 years but they do not get along with each other. When I go to my father he seems correct, and when I go to my mother she seems correct. What do I do?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar:

My first advice for you is to keep going to both of them. Tell them both that they are right and continue making efforts to maintain the friendship between them. Don’t give up. If you try 100 times at least one time something good will come out.

See, already 25 years have passed, and another 20-25 years will pass like that. We will see later what happens after that.

Do not try too much to maintain peace in such a situation. Just accept the way things are and relax. It is difficult to change the nature of people. It is better to leave them the way they are.
If the fire is too much then sprinkle some water. Stand in between if they start to fight. You are sensible and strong. That is how things are in our society.

There was a gentleman, and someone asked him, 'Why do you fight with your wife?'
He replied, 'What do you mean? She is my wife and I love her, so how can I go fight with someone else? I can only fight with the one I love'.

That is very true.

See, they will fight now and then, but then they will get back together and love each other also. It is okay. Don’t interfere too much and don’t worry.

(Note: The discourse was given in Hindi. Above is a translation of the original talk.)