How do I handle infidelity in my husband? In Russian society, it’s not considered to be a big deal. But after coming to India and experiencing the culture here, I feel this is wrong. What should I do to change this situation?
I have no idea how you can change someone. Unless the person turns spiritual and sees beyond the gross and the material, he will continue to behave that way. The mind continues to seek some greater pleasure and greater happiness in one thing or another. They keep on jumping from one thing, or one person to another. But sometimes, somewhere, they should get tired of it, I suppose. Just Pray.
Just by talking to people, giving them advice – people don’t change. Even after knowing something is wrong, people continue to do it because their emotions are much stronger than the thought patterns. In trying to convince someone that something is bad or not right – even though they get convinced, they will not walk on that path – because their emotions are stronger than their thoughts.
That’s where one needs to believe in a higher power which is taking care, and will take care. And it is not only the fools who make mistakes. The wise also make mistakes. Why does this happen? Because they feel some pleasure or enjoyment even in the mistakes. Till the time they stop enjoying committing the mistake, the mistakes will keep happening. There is only one way to move away from it - when you experience a higher pleasure than you get from committing the mistakes. This is possible only through spirituality.