3 October 2012 - QA 2

Gurudev, I am in a situation in which I am neither able to forgive nor forget. Please guide me what to do.

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar:

Then just think about your death, that you are going to die.
Even if you hold on (to the situation), still you will be finished; you will go away from this world.
Now, do you want to carry that impression? Come on, wake up!
Life is so short and everybody is like a rag doll. They don’t have a mind of their own. Everyone is like a rag doll, and there is a particular force and energy that is working through everybody.
That one Paramakaranakarana is the cause of all causes. The Shiva Tattva is playing, putting different things in different people’s minds. Understand this Advaita knowledge; feel it.

We are all made up of the same substance.
All these little minds are there, but the mind is also influenced by a big mind, and according to karma. So, different people act in different ways.

Have you noticed that sometimes, you haven’t done anything wrong to anyone, and still they became your enemies? How many of you have had this experience?
Especially people to whom you have done a lot of good to, they become your enemies. You wonder, this person is my best friend, I did so much for him, and this person became my enemy! Isn’t it?
In the same way, there are some people to whom you have not done any special favors, yet they have become your friends, hasn’t this happened?
You met someone in the train and then they came out and helped you so much.

So both, friendship and enmity happens with some strange law of karma. That is why friends or enemies are all same, because another power is working through them. Knowing this, relax.

Similarly, when you do good work, there are people who criticize you. There are people who do horrible work, and there are some people praising them as well. You find it so strange.
So, drop them all and relax.