Question & Answers with Sri Sri Ravi Shankar
Q:
Guruji what qualities should we look for when we choose our life partner?
Sri Sri Ravi Shankar:
Well, (smiling) I don’t have the experience! Ask those who have the experience. And you can take more help from the matrimony department!You know why they say that marriages are made in heaven? It is because the choice is already made for you. You just have to take it and move on. You are free from choices. Move on with what you have on your plate.
You know the best thing is that you don’t focus on the drawbacks. Focus on the positive. In a relationship if both the people have their focus on spirituality then they will move ahead together like parallel lines move, without clashing, to infinity. The moment they will shift their focus and focus on each other, there will be clashes. So it is very important that both are on the spiritual path.
Q:
Guruji, what is the secret of this place?
Sri Sri Ravi Shankar:
smiling): The secret is here (pointing to his heart).Q:
What kind of siddhis (powers) are required to be able to know what is happening in other places?
Sri Sri Ravi Shankar:
An ordinary person through spirituality can know what is happening all over. Mansik shakti (strength of mind) is enough. When you put your attention somewhere, you can know what is happening there. Practice and you will see it is easy.Q:
What is the truth behind this Universe? Is everything an illusion?
Sri Sri Ravi Shankar:
This universe has come from one unchanging principle. Vedanta also says the same. Everything you see in creation is Maya- like dolls in a laser show, what you see is not the truth. The wave is not the truth, the water is the truth. The form and name are not the truth, the Tattva (the principle) is the truth. The pot is not true but the mud is the truth.The same brahma tattva (Infinite, Supreme, eternal principle) is the tree, grass, stone and everything else in creation. Brahmatatvamasi bhavayatmane - All has come from that Brahman. This is the ultimate truth. Knowledge of the truth, that this creation has come from Brahman, comes through meditation - Sarvam kalvidam Brahma.
Q:
What is the ultimate goal of meditation?
Sri Sri Ravi Shankar:
A pleasant equanimous state of mind. A blissful life without sorrow.Q:
There are so many problems in the world. Isn’t it better if we have the power to know them wherever we are so that we can do something to help?
Sri Sri Ravi Shankar:
Aren’t you seeing enough on television? Why do you want to know about all the problems? Whether you know or not, meditation and Satsang will bring the transformation. Knowing is not a big deal. Where you put your attention, you will get knowledge about it. Yet once you have the power you will not want to use it. A scholar does not carry all his books on his head all the time. He refers only when necessary. Same way the consciousness knows, when necessary it knows.Some karmas have to be experienced. The effects of some can be reduced through upayas (solutions).
Q:
Guruji, you say that self blame is not good. But I feel sometimes it’s good as it brings perfection.
Sri Sri Ravi Shankar:
If you feel you are becoming perfect by blaming then do it. Yet if you keep blaming yourself then that is not perfection. Also, make sure you don’t blame others! Don’t try to make others perfect.All of us have divine qualities. When you try to raise these qualities of others and they don’t want it, then what is the use? It is like forcibly helping an old lady to cross the road when she doesn’t want to. Whatever work we want to do, do it with good intentions. Nobody’s curse can affect you if your heart is pure. If your heart is impure then surely it will have an influence.
Q:
What is the significance of the conch? It is used in every puja or celebration or big event.
Sri Sri Ravi Shankar:
In the olden days, people started wars by blowing the conch. Water from conch is used along with chanting associated mantras. There are definite vibrations for each object. The conch is a symbol of auspiciousness and prosperity. Shankhabasma (ashes of the conch) is very good for health. It brings strength in body.In this creation every blade of the grass has importance. Bilva, parijata, neem - all have their significance. More than all this, you are very important. Your consciousness is important. You give importance to the external surroundings and fill your house with garbage, then it is of no use. So first have a pure heart then everything in creation is significant for you.
Q:
Despite meditating, I still get angry and tense. What should I do?
Sri Sri Ravi Shankar:
Even now you get tensed, but it goes away right? Anger, tension - many people don’t even know they are like this! At least you know. On a white clean cloth - a small dust particle is also seen. When the mind is clear, little anger or tension is also seen. Slowly you will see nothing is affecting you. A few months or years of practice and you will see that nothing can touch you.Q:
What is your advice on the Fatwa against education for women?
Sri Sri Ravi Shankar:
This is ignorance. Fatwa against women going to school is anti-progress.Women should be given equal rights as men. That is the symbolism of Ardhanaareshvara- half Shiva and half Shakti. Women should not be treated like second class, third class or a servant.
Saying that you cannot sing Vandemataram because it praises the earth as a mother - people are not listening to such dictates anymore.
Women should be given all rights. They should be empowered and should have a say on everything. We should have one common law. Politicians keep dividing society to enjoy privileges, vote bank. They don't want education to reach the poor people so that they can rule over them. This is a rotten mind. We have to go ahead and educate the population. Illiteracy is the reason that wrong people enter politics.