12 August 2012 - QA 4

Can you please explain, how should I deal with this situation? I love a person unconditionally but that person takes me for granted. How do I deal with that pain?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar:

Oh, they take you for granted? They don’t love you back? They don’t express their love to you, is that the problem? Well, do not question their love.

If you find that they are not being loving, instead of accusing them saying, ‘You do not love me’, ask them, ‘Why do you love me so much?’

Just imagine, if someone keeps accusing you, saying you are not kind to them, you are not pleasant with them, you are not friendly, what happens to you?

(Answer: We feel we are being nagged)

Yes! Now do you know what you are doing to the other person? Got it?

Nobody wants to be in the company of a person who complains all the time.

Does anybody want to be in the company of a person who nags you, and to whom you have to explain and give proof of your love all the time? No! It is such a burden, such boredom!

A good company is one who always uplifts the spirit. If somebody is not in a good mood, they say, ‘Hey, come on! Forget about it. Let’s move on.’

Someone who has enthusiasm, someone who always pushes you forward is good company.
Someone who asks for explanations, doubts and questions you is not good company.

So never doubt someone’s love for you. Never question or complain all the time. Move on!