30 July 2013 - QA 6

After a couple of failed relationships, how do I overcome the desire to be in another relationship. I feel guilty when I wish I had a partner, because in the past I have failed.

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar:

Okay, there are two things that you can do.

1. If you feel that it (relationship) is not for you then move on, move alone like a lion.

2. If you feel that you really need it, then try again till you succeed. Keep trying all your life, till you go to the grave. You can try in the heaven, and afterwards as well, if you’re so bent upon it.

Be happy now. If it is not worked out, why make yourself more miserable? And if you are crossing the age bar, focus on something better.

Relationship is only for the middle few years.

Just see, in your teenage you didn’t have any relationship, and you had no problem. You were happy. And after you are, maybe 70, you will have no relationship. Even if you have a relationship, it will only be to fight. There is no relationship afterwards, it’ll be more like a companionship. So what is the big deal about it?

For life in between, if you feel you want to have it, then have it. If you say that it is not working out, then move on. If you feel very tempted, try once again with another person. If it works, well and good. If not, well and good. Either way it is good.