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  1. How do I deal with my emotions?

    You have to weapons, one is ‘So what!Emotions come and they go'. The other is‘So hum’ (Sudarshan Kriya). Most of the problems get solved with‘so what.’If you’re upset, so what? Be upset for a little while. You cannot be upset all the time, it will disappea ...
  2. Gurudev, my husband hurts my feelings? How do I change his egoistic nature?

    Why do we try to change people? It is because they are hurting us. And the more we want to change someone because they are hurting us, they are not going to change. If you really want them to change, you have to wish for their welfare – because what they a ...
  3. How to be positive and strong when people start hurting me? How to love myself in such situations?

    Come on, you forget that you are a diamond! Nobody can cut a diamond or hurt it. Even if a diamond is cut, it shines more. When anyone is trying to hurt you, they are not hurting you, they are only making you shine more. Anyone who brings down your prestig ...
  4. Gurudev, how do I forgive those who have abused me emotionally and physically? Sometimes I feel like killing them but even that doesn’t seem enough.

    When you get hurt, it is not only the other person at fault, it is also your ignorance and your naivety. You have not been intelligent enough, or intuitive enough to avoid it, or move out of it. So, take a little bit of the responsibility on yourself as we ...
  5. How can I forgive my mother-in-law who is constantly hurting me?

    Take a look at how your mother behaves. How many times did you have arguments with your own mother, and how many times was she frustrated with you? Haven’t you gotten scolding from your own mother? I don’t think any girl or boy has grown up without being s ...
  6. If love is our true nature then why does it feel so good to hurt the one who has hurt me? How do I stop myself from retaliating?

    Do you want the chain to continue? You hurt them, they hurt you, you hurt them and they retaliate again. Do you like to be retaliated against? I am asking you a question. If you have made a mistake unintentionally and the other person starts retaliating ...
  7. I can forgive, but I cannot forget the hurt my partner has caused me. What to do?

    It's very difficult, isn't it! When you are in love with somebody, pain happens. They are not responsible for your pain, you simply feel pain. Just look at them, what can they do? They cannot behave in a different way.. But your expectations are more, so n ...
  8. I am hurt, I don’t want to forgive.

    Forgiving others is not for their sake, it is for your own sake, for your mental health. Know that you have the power to do it and just do it. Open your mind to the vastness of this universe. Wake up and see that seven billion people are on this planet, ev ...
  9. I feel jealous when I see people who were at the same level as me earlier but are now much ahead of me. How to deal with it?

    Be friendly with those who are progressing and who are happy, and have compassion for those who are unhappy. Don't be friendly with people who are complaining and negative in their mindset because if you are friendly with them you also get into that mode. ...
  10. I feel jealous when I see my girlfriend interacting with someone else. I love her but these feeling of mine are bringing a distance between us. How do I handle this?

    I think this is very common. People feel this way even after getting married. If a new person comes to your house, will you welcome them and talk to them? Yes, you would. Now someone looking at you will think you look very happy. Suppose you are welcoming ...