We all possess certain personality traits that set us apart from the rest. A mix of good and bad, these traits define how we respond to situations and people. While the most common belief is that these traits remain fixed, studies show otherwise!
A research study by psychologists at the University of Illinois suggests that we can change our traits provided we want to change them.
We can become the best version of ourselves if we want to. So, if you are willing to become the most terrific version of you, here are some personality development tips to your aid:
13 Personality development tips
Know you are incomparable
You bring your self-esteem down by comparing yourself with others. That shrivels your personality and does not let your strengths blossom . Know that you and the other person are unique and are just incomparable.
Be kind to yourself
We are taught to be kind to others. Yet, many of us fail to be kind to ourselves. Studies show that self-compassion brings positive traits like optimism, extroversion, wisdom, happiness, positivity and resilience. According to Emma Seppala, research psychologist at Stanford University, self-compassion involves three steps:
- Recognize that you deserve care and concern like anyone else and that is why you must be kind and understanding with oneself.
- Recognize that making mistakes and failing is part of life. So, do not be hard on yourself when you commit a mistake or fail and indulge in self-critical thoughts.
- Be aware of one’s emotions and feelings.
Contrary to popular belief, self-compassion does not mean letting yourself off the hook. Rather, it means taking corrective action, albeit without being too self-critical.
Give space to imperfection
People and situations always do not fit in your frame of perfection. Often, that makes one agitated and angry, eventually diminishing the strength of their personality. So, find your peace amidst the world’s flaws even as you strive to make a change.
Spontaneity makes one to be fun around. However, do not confuse being spontaneous with being impulsive. Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar says, that while the former is the key to success, the latter can causes disasters. So, how do you be truly spontaneous? By being cent percent aware in the present moment.
Be light in mind and heart
Don’t overthink and overanalyze. Neither let any negativity like shame, anger, jealousy or greed stay in your consciousness for too long. Instead, learn to take it easy; forgive easily and drop grudges against people as soon as they pop up. Being light in mind and heart makes you truly happy from within. And who does not like happy people?
Enthusiasm is infectious and appealing. That is why everyone loves kids. Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar says, that despite adverse situations in life, one must never give up their enthusiasm. Here is Gurudev’s secret of staying enthusiastic.
Be a better communicator
A couplet in Kannada says that words can create laughter and can also create enmity. A skillful communicator can win over people and adverse situations. So, bring clarity in your communication. Learn how you can be an excellent communicator with these tips from Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar.
Be warm and approachable
We all like people with whom we can easily mingle and talk to. No one likes a person who responds with a straight face. So, learn to be warm. Flash that smile more often. Be friendly and be ready to share and help.
Do things with style
Doing things with style adds zing to your personality. The secret to doing things with style lies in working with passion and a relaxed mind. So, while you work at something, don’t let anything distract you from putting all your energy into it. At the same time, stay relaxed.
Learn to let go
After you’re done with a task, let go of your attachment with the result. When you let go, you become free, calm and relaxed - attributes of a strong personality.
Be a lion in the face of danger
Don’t give into pressure and face every challenge confidently. Either you will overcome the adversity or learn something invaluable.
Stay calm with the power of breath
Being calm strengthens one’s personality. However, staying calm can be difficult when you have a terrible headache and have an urgent deadline to meet. In such situations, tap the power of breath. As soon as you become aware of it, your stress will diminish!
Remember you’re a proton
A proton can never lose its positivity. Nor can you! Stress may affect us on the outside. However, your inner core continues to radiate positivity like a proton. It stays unaffected, happy and peaceful. Tune into this part of yourself again and again with the help of meditation. The process energizes and brings out positive traits like enthusiasm.
How does the Happiness Program help in personality development?
The Art of Living’s Happiness Program helps in personality development by helping you work on the mind. It’s core technique of Sudarshan Kriya helps in removing deep-seated impressions and stress that holds one back in life. The program also offers practical wisdom that helps one remain calm and enthusiastic amidst tough situations.
Based on inputs by Shikha Kaushal, Faculty, The Art of Living